It’s completely normal to miss an ex after a breakup, and it’s also normal to be tempted to call, text, or email them constantly. However, the excessive contact is actually counter-productive in many cases. Here are a few tips for getting an ex back the right way.
Let Contact Come From Them
The first way to get your ex back is to let them make the contact. Sure, it might seem like it’s been a million years since they called but, in reality, it’s probably only been days. Try to keep time in proper perspective right now. Be aware that the ex wants some space, and texting or calling is only likely to make them feel like they don’t have that space. Allow them enough time to realize that those texts and calls aren’t coming in. In short, allow the ex time to realize that they’re actually lost something.
Live a New Life
It might seem simple to say “live a new life” but much harder to actually put into practice. In fact, living a new life doesn’t have to be complicated or difficult. It can start with little things. What about spending some time with friends who may have been neglected during the course of the relationship? The same can apply to time with family members who probably haven’t seen you nearly enough.
A new hobby is always a great way to put a whole new life into effect. This hobby can be something that your ex would have hated or something that they refused to take part in. Try to choose a new hobby based purely on personal interest even if others might find it obscure or strange. A new hobby can serve a couple of purposes. First, it helps keep your mind off the ex. It can also allow the opportunity to meet new people who may have interests in the same areas.
Pretend You Don’t Care Until You Don’t!
The phrase “fake it till you make it” can apply here. Basically, put on a good front of being over your ex. It may be hard in the beginning, but over time it will slowly turn out to be true. At that point, the ex might just come crawling back, and you get to decide whether you still think they’re worth dating.