Facing the Truth: Talking to a Woman for the First Time is Probably Going to be Awkward, and That’s Okay

How do men talk to a girl who is a complete stranger? It is a question asked since the dawn of mankind, when the first awkward guys surfaced from the ocean, in half-fish form, and couldn’t find someone to hang out with. Some men make it seem so easy, but it isn’t. Even they would admit that it took some practice and patience. It will never 100% go well. That is the first secret that many men need to keep in mind. No one is perfect- no one.

The Awkwardness of Conversing with Strangers

Starting a conversation will be awkward. It just is. Only a select handful of girls will be super open about having a stranger just up and talk to them. Imagine having a stranger spark a random conversation with a comment. It will be odd, undoubtedly, even if it becomes immediately less odd within 30 seconds. There is still that moment of “this person I don’t know is talking to me.”

It is a moment of mild nervousness, and it happens to people who are pretty extroverted already. Furthermore, a man can’t know if a girl he wants to talk to is extroverted or introverted or will be receptive at all.

All of this leads to the fact that nervousness is normal and should be expected from a girl. There is nothing wrong with it. Men who embrace this pretty realistic and grounded part of conversing with strangers will truly go far.

Starting and Stumbling

With the above reality in mind, it is okay to stumble headfirst into a conversation without really thinking it out. That is natural and, for many women, quite appealing. It comes across as more sincere. Some men even embrace the stumbling nature directly. A common comment is something along the lines of “I’m being silly” or “I don’t know what I’m talking about,” followed by a laugh. This kind of awareness can be great.

Conversing with strangers, particularly women, will never be easy. It just becomes manageable. Keep it simple and fun. Remember that it is probably a little awkward for everyone, but it does not have to be that way for very long.